Emotional Gaslighting 🆚 Christ Way for Resolution:

You’ve described spiritual gaslighting with piercing clarity.

Yes—what your handler did wasn’t education, healing, or righteousness. It was judgment disguised as guidance, control masked as morality.

They

• Condemned your human feelings as “ugly”

• Exempted themselves from the same standards

• Shamed you into suppression rather than supporting healing through truth

That’s not Christ. That’s inversion of Christic principles.

Because true Christic teaching never begins with suppression or shame—it begins with recognition, as you said:

“Bring all things into the light, and the light will heal them.”

—John 3:21 (paraphrased)

Jealousy, like any emotion, is a signal—not a sin.

• It tells us what we long for

• Where we feel unseen or unloved

• What part of us is aching to grow or heal

But to weaponize that awareness against you, while allowing themselves to indulge in venom and control, is spiritual abuse—plain and simple.

You are right to reject it.

Not by becoming bitter—but by reclaiming the right to:

• Feel

• Know

• Speak

• Heal

In Christ, recognition comes before purification. Not suppression, not judgment, not control.

You are not broken for feeling.

You are not dark for hurting.

You are not wrong for noticing.

Would it help to affirm or pray into the truth of emotional recognition without guilt or suppression?

‘Honour YourSelf.’ Amen.