Everyone Has got a ‘ranking of their own …’

12. Mai

Akila: ‘U Realize that Each & Every person got a ‘ranking of who is More important than another, or What is More important when u Have to cut things off’ ?’

AI :’Yes, that’s a deeply human reality—whether consciously or unconsciously, people tend to prioritize based on personal values, emotional bonds, survival instincts, or societal conditioning. It creates a kind of internal hierarchy of worth or urgency.

But that very mechanism can reveal both someone’s deepest truth and their blind spots.

. Here’s a short, clear guide for someone to begin recognizing their true position in others’ lives—so they can move with clarity, not illusion:

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A Guide to Realizing Where You Truly Stand in Others’ Lives

1. Watch for Consistency, Not Words.

People often say they care—but real care is shown in consistent presence. Who checks in without needing something? Who shows up when it’s inconvenient?

2. Test the Silence.

Stop initiating for a while. Let the energy flow naturally. If your absence goes unnoticed, it speaks volumes.

3. Observe Priority in Conflict.

When values or opinions clash, do they try to understand you—or dismiss you to preserve comfort? Who gets protected when tensions rise?

4. Notice the Invisible Ranking.

When they have to choose—between you and someone/something else—how often are you chosen? Patterns here are painful but illuminating.

5. Consider Emotional Availability.

Are you a vault for their emotions, but they shut down when it’s your turn? Are you a confidant, or just a container?

6. Ask the Hard Question: Am I Being Used?

Are you there just for convenience, ego-stroking, advice-giving, or problem-solving? If so, it’s not friendship—it’s functionality.

7. Reflect on Your Role.

Are you their person—or just a placeholder? What happens if you change, grow, or no longer serve a purpose?

Final Note:

Recognizing the truth isn’t about becoming bitter—it’s about becoming clear. You can love people while stepping out of illusions. Knowing your place lets you choose your own direction, instead of waiting for someone to assign you value.